My boo is upstairs alseep, having worked last night and on again tonight, so we made hime a good breakfast- french toast, turkey bacon, french vanilla hot chocolate, juice and kisses. God bless him, he was exhausted but still played Uno with the girls. Cheerfully even.
He is a nice dad. He’s playful. He’s helpful and he’s always telling the girls how wonderful they are. He corrects them calmly. (Unlike i, who will go on and on and begin with “How many times…”) He is responsible and models integrity, positivity and level-headedness. (Unlike i, who will make threats against those who dare give side-eye to my baby-girls!) Sometimes, i feel it’s unfair the way the children respond to his direction whilst i’ve to repeat myself a gazillionty times- but this isn’t about me. For once.
The thing about R as a dad is that he expects a lot from our children, but nothing insane. He expects what is within their capabilities and encourages them beyond that. He never pushes nor punishes. He will talk with them, not at them, about mistakes. He is involved and interested in their lives and thoughts and feelings. It’s nice to see man like that- all gentle.
Our 14 year-old loves comics. He buys her comic books all the time. He bought her books on how to draw manga. He asks about her comic. He brings her pens. They will spread out all their stuff on the living room rug and draw together.
Our 8 year-old is really into music right now. He downloads his music for her little mp3 player. He discussed the lyrics of Plateau by Nirvana with her. He will listen attentively to her sing songs she has made up or play the keyboard and clap at the end.
When i see R with our daughters, i fall in love with him all over again. His nurturing side is hawt! i love this man not only because i just do because he is the awesomest man ever, but also because i see his most loving self presented to our children daily.
Happy Father’s Day, R. We love you and thank you for your kindness and goodness and Daddy-ness.
And Happy Father’s Day to all those men and women who work so hard, in love, to care for, guide and raise children.
(copyright 2008 ) c A Hughes
06.15.08
He sounds so great, C! I hope he had a great day!
She draws Manga? I do, too! I’d love to see some work sometime!
i swear-
i like you more and more.
~c
c- I think this is probably one of the nicest tributes to a husband and father I’ve ever read because you understand that the way he is with your daughters is more than good. It’s pretty f***ing amazing! I wish my ex had been half as good a dad to our daughters. Kudos to you for letting him know you appreciate him.
Thank you, Trisha.
i do like him a lot, so yeah.
i let him know.
~c
I agree with Trisha, it’s a beautiful tribute. Lucky you
Thanks, Simonne.
i know yours is a keeper, too-
bringing you coffee in bed.
When i was pregnant with my first daughter, R used to bring me breakfast in bed:
a sandwich of fried egg, bacon and strawberry jam with potatoes on the side.
What can i say? i craved grease.
~c
There is nothing better than a man who loves his children – it is sexy to the millionth degree. I’m so happy that all three of you have such a wonderful, strong and caring man in your lives – it can only be good for you. I thank him for being good to you, Chica – dear friend.
Annie
Thank you so much, Annie.
i agree. Good daddies are hawt.
~c
Beautiful post! You are blessed.
I wish my dad had wanted to discuss Nirvana lyrics with me. LOL. Everyone has their strengths, though, so I’m not complaining. Your daughters are lucky that one of their dad’s strengths is discussion.
Me, too, because goodness knows i am able to go so far before getting frustrated.
i am the goofy parent, the ‘mind your manners’ parent, the clean-your-room parent.
He’s simply more flexible, i think.
~c
Does she have the “how to draw more manga?” book. i’d hook her up if not.
Actually no, she doesn’t.
We downloaded a book online but when looking through it, there were lots of boobs and lips (yup- those ones) and that’s fine- she has lots of how to draw figures and there are nudes in those too- but the poses were a little much for me to hand it over to her and say, “From mom and Dad”.
So if it’s not terribly suggestive, i would appreciate the hook up and i know she would, too.
Thanks so much!
~c
Doh! the ? shoulda gone after “book”.
i gotcha.
~c
is R a cartoonist?
would he be interested in a project?
He is a cartoonist.
i will e-mail you.
~c